Round about the time my doctor sort of wrote me off, I joined Fertility Friend, a website designed to help women trying to concieve. It offered free charting (measuring your basal body temperature every day to determine if/when you ovulate) as well as tons of information on fertility, and it had message boards and buddy groups you could join to get feedback, answers, and support from other women going through the same thing as you.
If you haven't gone through fertility or know someone closely who has, you won't know that NO ONE knows (and most don't care) how hard it is to want a baby and not be able to have one except someone who has been there. As soon as you get married, people start asking you, "So, when are you two going to start a family?" A seemingly innocent question, but after months and months of negative pregnancy tests (BFNs), it's a question that stings. And some people think they're being funny when they say more pointedly, "So what's the deal? Where are the babies?" And then there are the people who think they are offering you great advice when they say, "Stop worrying about it so much and it will happen," or "You guys just need to practice more, hahaha." But those comments just make you feel more inadequate and more stressed. But probably the worst is the glazed look in your friends' and family memebers' eyes when you start talking about fertility stuff again, like they just can't bear to hear it anymore. Sigh...
So when you find a site like Fertility Friend, where you can complain and cry and vent and people not only listen but actually understand, it is a GOD SEND.
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